Why Hurt People Hurt Others?

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Why do people who have been wounded hurt others?  Whether our collective ego as a society or our individual egos, ego prevents us from seeing our emotional problems as a society and individually.  Repressing and Suppressing feelings from our emotional trauma, pain, and wounds are caused by fear and guilt when our egos, through our minds, instantly will thrust these feelings into the unconscious as soon as it tries to emerge.  What we experience are denial and projection in our lives. These repressed feelings are so threatening that we will project them onto the world and those around us.  We experience these feelings as if they belong to others.  “They” become the enemy, and the mind searches for and finds justification to reinforce these projections.  Blame is placed on people, places, institutions, food, climatic conditions, astrological events, social conditions, fate, God, luck, the devil, foreigners, ethnic groups, political rivals, and other things outside of us.

As a result of these suppressed and repressed feelings, we blame and lash out at others as we project and experience these feelings as if they belong to others and truly believe that others are our enemy trying to hurt us.  Our minds search for and finds justifications to reinforce these projections to substantiate our illusions. We, as a society, commit mass murders, holocausts, genocides, and wars all resulting from our justifications to reinforce these projections so to substantiate our illusions as a society.  We, as individuals, commit revenge, retaliation, abuse, violence, coercion, and control others in our individual lives as we justify our own illusions.

The first step to overcoming our suppressed and repressed feelings, and thus, our denials, projections, and justifications is awareness by looking inward to acknowledge what is really happening to us.  Once we come to recognize that our illusions are self created by our egos through our own minds, we can begin the hard work of dealing and working through our suppressed and repressed feelings associated with our emotional trauma, pain, and wounds.  The two practices I use are “Emotional Release Practice” and “Observing Ego Practice” found at these tabs on my Blogsite Homepage.  May you overcome your illusions. (Copyright 2014 Kundalinin Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

Revelations I

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During our spiritual journeys, we come to moments of clarity, understanding clearly what is happening to us and in our lives, also known as a revelation.  These revelations, I believe, are messages or guides on our journey to help us move forward on our paths.  These moments are so clear in my mind, that I stand stunned in my tracks.

As I stand on my path, I realize that each person brought into my life has helped to serve as my life lessons and tests.  Our free will may cause us to choose different careers, partners, friends, etc, but the lessons and tests are still the same that we must learn as we each have our specific lessons to learn, and tests to pass. How do we know we are going through our lessons and tests?  It is when we say, we just want to quit and just want all this to go away.  These tests are intended to help us build courage, internal strength, and character.

After each lesson we learn and test we pass, we are given the next set of lessons we are intended learn and tests we must pass to grow spiritually and emotionally as human beings.  Many of these lessons are about facing our past emotional pain, and the test is letting go of that pain.  This is the ascension process.  Through each lesson and test passed, we ascend and evolve further and further towards the Divine to the spiritual and emotional state we were first born to this earth.

I am on such a path, and have passed my latest test.  After passing such a test, we shed another layer of dross or emotional pain caused by our past trauma, pain, and hurt, and we become a new version of ourselves.  My gratitude is boundless, and I am humbled by all that I have experienced.  Blessing of love, and peace to all. (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

Dreams of Wonder

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Allow the Universe to move within you,

When the world is whirling around you.

The peace that surrounds your heart,

Deeper and deeper within.

You watch as the world passes by,

Children crying, and mother worrying.

There is only your soul at rest,

With inner peace to accompany you.

Dreams of wonder while in slumber,

Only to observe your life in rem,

Just as you imagined,

When all your dreams come true.

(Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

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Desire: Awakening or Addiction?

Originally posted on Shashi Solluna:

Tantra is sometimes known as the path of awakening through desire. Unlike many paths which seek to suppress or avoid desire in order to awaken, Tantra gives methods to awaken through desire.

Note: Tantra gives methods. It is not enough simply to dive headstrong into your desires and call it “tantra”. This is hedonism. Different path.

desire_by_zieniuDesire is the fuel of life. We were all born of desire (if our parents hadn’t desired one another…just think about it!). We pop out in this world and seek the breast milk we desire. Then eventually the baby food we desire. In fact we continue on in life following one desire after another. Desire is natural.

But what is natural is not necessarily spiritual…will not necessarily awaken you. To be like an animal following basic desires is not a path of awakening and evolution in and of itself. As humans we have…

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Understanding How We Handle Feelings

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I currently am reading “Letting Go: the Pathway to Surrender,” by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D., who is a practicing psychiatrist, spiritual teacher, author, and speaker on the subject of advanced spiritual states and consciousness research.  I am writing to share relevant sections of his book in this post to help you identified issues on your spiritual journey and emotional healing.

We handle our emotions or feelings in three major ways, suppression/repression, expression, and escape.  Suppression and repression are the most common ways our minds push feelings down.  First, suppression is done consciously, while repression is done unconsciously.   How do we know we are suppressing feelings?  “The pressure of suppressed feelings is later felt as irritability, mood swings, tensions in the muscles of the neck and back, headaches, cramps, menstrual disorders, colitis, indigestion, insomnia, hypertension, allergies, and other somatic conditions.”  How do we know we are repressing feelings?  Repression is caused by fear and guilt when our minds instantly will thrust feelings into the unconscious as soon as it tries to emerge.  What we experience are denial and projection in our lives. These repressed feelings are so threatening that we will project them onto the world and those around us.  We experience these feelings as if they belong to others.  “‘They’  become the enemy, and the mind searches for and finds justification to reinforce the projection.  Blame is placed on people, places, institutions, food, climatic conditions, astrological events, social conditions, fate, God, luck, the devil, foreigners, ethnic groups, political rivals, and other things outside of us.”

Second, expression is when our feelings are vented, verbalized, or stated in body language, and acted out in endless group demonstrations.  Many believe that expressing our feelings free us of our feelings, but the fact is to the contrary.  “The expression of a feeling, first, tends to propagate that feeling and give it greater energy.  Second, the expression of the feeling merely allows the remainder to be suppressed out of awareness.”  “If we dump our negative feelings on others, they experience it as an attack and they, in turn, are forced to suppress, express, or escape the feelings; therefore, the expression of negativity results in deterioration and destruction of relationships.  A far better alternative is to take responsibility for our own feelings and neutralize them.  Then, only positive feelings remain to be expressed.”

Third, “[e]scape is the avoidance of feelings through diversion.”  This is the socially condoned mechanism, when we use alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, food, work, TV, texting, social media, shopping, etc, and other frantic activities to keep our minds busy to avoid our feelings.  As our dependency upon these activities grow, they become addictions that control and ultimately destroy ourselves and our lives.

“Each of [the above mechanisms] requires increasing amounts of energy in and of itself.  Enormous amounts of energy are required to keep down the growing pressure of the suppressed and repressed feelings.”  This can result in physical illness, mental conditions, and stress that is the physical result of keeping these feelings suppressed and how we emotionally respond to external stimuli triggering these feelings.  If you can identify any of these above symptoms, as I have, then it is time to do the hard emotional work of letting go of the negative feelings built up in your emotional landscape and energy fields through “Emotional Release Practice” found at this tab on my Blogsite Homepage.

Excerpts from “Letting Go: the Pathway to Surrender,” by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.

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Far Horizons

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In far away horizons,

There is my future.

I cannot see the details,

From this distance.

Love awaits me there,

Joy and bliss arrives,

When I least expect it.

It is this horizon,

I create for myself.

As I find my path forward,

Peace follows.

When I finally find myself,

I too shall find this future.

(Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

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In the Closure of the Day

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Dusk’s light reflects on wispy clouds,

As night fall is upon us.

Radiant light dances the tango,

Sultry in its allure.

Silence in hollow peace,

Rings in my head.

Time to rest your weary head,

As the light basks in day’s end.

The serpent has shed its skin,

In its moment of renewal,

No voices of regret,

Or feelings of hurt,

For tomorrow is another day.

Revel in the beauty that is,

In the closure of the day.

(Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

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Accepting Myself Fully

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As we near the core of our inner emotional pain, it can be a scary place. This is touching our emotional wounds where childhood memories were so painful that we just want to forget and bury it deep down. However, this is the origin of all our pain, some buried so deep from childhood that we may not remember that they even happened.

This is where my journey has lead me to face myself and my past. This time, however, I am not running away from it. No more self medicating with my addiction of choice, but facing what happened to me head on. I cry a lot, feel such grief that my heart hurts, and mourn the loss of joy, love, and safety in my childhood.

This was my past, and it is accepting this as part of me fully, and still be able to love myself. It is coming to love myself without judgment, and forgive myself for being small, vulnerable, and frightened. I am working on my core fears, instead of running away as I know I am finally able to face them. (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

Message to My Inner Child

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On my journey inward,

Darkness looms in hidden corners.

There I meet myself,

Naked and revealed.

It is a face I do not recognize,

As I reach into the depth of my being.

I confront my despair, loneliness, and anguish,

A child full of pain.

She is hidden away,

In safety from the darkness.

Come out, come out, blessed child,

I am here to comfort, love, and protective you.

Let the sunshine heal your pain,

And show you joy you have never known.

There is no more fear to bear,

As we walk together hand in hand into the light . . .

(Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)